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May 2015

Woman: Valiant, Vulnerable, Scandalous

May 28, 2015

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I once saw it written that a woman living out her true design will be valiant, vulnerable and scandalous. Upon reading this, I felt a certain sense of release as if somehow by just seeing it in words, the life I have always innately been compelled to live had been validated. This was all too quickly followed by a pang deep in my heart as I know the reality of how painfully difficult it is as a woman, even with all of my “freedom”, to live valiantly in a way that most interpret as scandalous while fighting the urge to squelch my vulnerability as it seems to possess the power to hinder living a fully realized life.

Embracing these three corresponding elements while living out our unique design invites a few admirers and many criticizers, as are too prominent the beliefs that bold and tender together do not belong.

I am not a feminist. I am a woman who knows how hard it is to live what comes alive inside of her because of the way the world views us, the expectations that are put on us and the ideas formed about us by those who have never meandered through the inside of us.

Woman. Valiant: Boldly courageous. Vulnerable: Capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt. Scandalous: Displaying shocking behavior (and not necessarily sexual). If these things are part of the design of a woman then they don’t need to be attained, rather simply allowed to exist and cultivated.

I believe that how these attributes manifest in each woman is going to be different because no two people are entirely alike, but the essence remains the same. A woman living out her true design will be boldly courageous. She will be capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt and she will display shocking behavior.

So, live boldly and courageously without succumbing to the urge to squelch your vulnerability and pay them no mind when they call this scandalous.

Emily

©2015 Emily Francis Tavis

Photo ©Emily Francis Tavis

 

Changing the Face of Beauty

May 2, 2015

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You’ve heard me say it before and I’ll say it many times after this. You are Beauty. How much does that actually mean when there are real things affecting your beauty?

Let’s be real. We don’t always look or feel beautiful. Pimples, scars, uneven skin tone, sagging skin, wrinkles, dull, lifeless skin, cellulite, stretch marks… The list goes on. These are often the marks of living life. However, in large part they don’t have to be.

People often comment on how nice my skin is and then immediately say, “Well, you were just born with nice skin.” The truth is that we were all born with nice skin and then adolescence happens. Stress happens. Life shifts happen. Imbalance happens. I founded Vaalia Lélek and its skin care products because I DIDN’T have nice skin. I was suffering from a whole host of skin issues. Deep underground pimples, excessive oiliness mixed in with random dryness, blackheads, scarring from the acne I had in my teenage years…

I used oil blotting sheets and powder countless times a day to sop up the oil. I washed my face twice a day with “oil free” and harsh face washes. I tried countless products on the market to treat my underground pimples. Nothing worked. I started doing some research. Ancient research. What I wanted to know was what people groups with notoriously nice skin used in their beauty regimens. What I found out? Oil. It. Freaked. Me. Out.

How could I possibly use oil on my already oily skin?! They must not know what they are talking about. I kept researching and I kept coming up with the same answer. In this search I learned that the reason that skin gets extremely oily is because the chemicals we are slathering all over our skin are stripping the skin of its natural oils (the sebum). This causes the body to overproduce oil to compensate for the imbalance. Our natural oil is what provides a protective barrier, keeping invaders out. It keeps collagen and elastin intact. Every time we put a synthetic chemical on our skin we are removing our skin’s natural defense and thus disrupting our skin’s natural moisturizing, healing, protecting, and regenerating mechanism. It blew my mind. I wasn’t confidant but I was desperate so I tried it. It a took a few days for my skin to realize that it no longer had to overproduce oil. The extreme oily/dryness, the underground pimples, the dullness, the uneven skin tone…they fixed themselves in a couple of weeks.

I then began experimenting with essential oils, which I realized have skin regenerating properties. Within a few days people were stopping dead in their tracks saying, “What did you do to your skin?” That was the beginning of not just a company, but a great realization that we can actually restore our natural beauty. So, I took one thing at a time that was bothering me, figured out a solution, and found freedom from it.

I’m not going to promise you a magic fix overnight. Sometimes skin issues are more than skin deep. This past year my skin took a turn for the worse. I suffered. I agonized over it. I was depressed about it at times. I didn’t feel beautiful and I definitely wasn’t looking at my best. That’s reality. Something changed, something needed attention. My body was telling me this loud and clear. It took all year to figure out it was glandular burnout, which caused a lot of other disruptions throughout my bodily organs and functions. We are living, breathing, changing organisms and life affects us and sometimes this gets in the way of our true beauty shining through.

If you are experiencing skin ailments the first step is to restore the health of your skin by: 1) not stripping the skin of its natural oils, 2) feed the skin with vitamins and minerals (topically and internally), and 3) don’t put unnatural substances on the skin because while they might provide a quick solution, they ultimately disrupt the body’s natural healing and regenerating process. Contrary to what you are being told, nature absolutely provides all of the things necessary to feed and nurture the skin.

Once you are topically treating the skin in a healthy way, if there are still skin issues present then you can look a layer deeper—your diet. Pay attention to what in your diet may be aggravating your skin. Then look at stress. Lastly, if you are still having issues take a deep look at health imbalances. It’s a journey, but one that anyone can travel. Take it layer upon layer, from the outside in and figure out the root, treat it, and low and behold, your outer appearance will come back into alignment and you will radiate more and more your natural beauty.

I know what it feels like to not feel or look beautiful. Fortunately, my own journey has armed me with a lot of information and solutions to restore our beauty. I will partner with you in figuring it out and together we’ll change your face, Beauty.

© Emily Tavis 2015. All rights reserved.
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